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I am still — more than ten years on — dealing with the venomous headspace that created.) The most common complaints about asexuality in fiction are the offensive/incorrect portrayals, the “asexuals are alien/sociopaths/just in need of a good fuck” stories. Some asexuals do hate sex, are uncomfortable with or repulsed by sexual activities, sometimes without having tried such activities. Having had bad sexual and/or romantic experiences does not automatically equal being ace/aro. Some asexuals and aromantics are “married to their work”.
On the flip-side: alloromanticism is often used to humanise and/or reward a character. Ex-villain is being rehabilitated and redeeming themself? Previously creepy/whacky side character starts being more important? Media told me that — just because I didn’t feel like dating or having sex — I didn’t have the right to consider myself human. Being abused in your youth does not automatically equal being ace/aro. Some asexuals and aromantics have had bad sexual and/or romantic experiences.
We need Ace101 in texts to help raise the visibility of asexuality — for both asexuals and allosexuals.
Additionally, I’m not going to talk about fanfiction because I don’t read or write it. I want you to think of an asexual character in fiction, whether that’s in a book or on TV. How many other characters/creators have said this (in a non-offensive way, I mean. Are there many characters that you can show to an allosexual and go “see, this is an ace character!
…Who is a serial killer, and (in the books, at least) says he’s not human. …Who is a drug-abuser and kinda sociopathic (in some adaptations). As time goes on, there are more asexuals and aromantics in fiction. don’t really know whether the of aces in fiction is increasing, though? Read ace blogs and communities, talk (respectfully! ) to aces, look up critique (by aces) on fictional asexuals.
If someone doesn’t want an alloromantic relationship (and if they’re not just waiting for the right man~~) they are probably going to commit genocide. The thing they want the very most is an alloromantic relationship. and they’re a serial killer or an alien, and a lot of people go “well no, they’re actually probably totes gay”. Being non-neurotypical or disabled or depressed does not automatically equal being ace/aro. Some asexuals and aromantics were physically and/or emotionally and/or sexually abused in their youth.
:psyduck: (Also there is the horrific tendency to desexualise the non-white, non-straight, non-cis, non-able-bodied, non-neurotypical.) And then there’s the representation of aromanticism in fiction. girl players are hoors who need a man to settle her down! The most normal thing in media is wanting a (hetero)romantic relationship. And then we finally recognise ourselves in a character on TV and… Asexuals can happily (and unhappily) be romantically involved with allosexuals. Some asexuals and aromantics are non-neurotypical and/or disabled and/or depressed.
& Favourite and least favourite thing to read about asexuality in fiction? I had a look down TVTrope’s page on Asexuality, and lot of the examples involved “played for laughs” or “traumatic childhood” or “possibly just celibate”. Write lots of aces, not just a token one, and mix it up a bit — write about alloromantics and aromantics and demisexuals, about asexuals dating asexuals and asexuals dating allosexuals, about asexuals having sex and asexuals not having sex, about aces who are confident and sure of themselves and aces who are still discovering themselves!